How to express gratitude to yourself

It is often said, that we are own worst enemies. It’s said so often that it has become cliché. The trouble with cliché is that buried within it – is truth.

Even the best people can find themselves at war with their own interests; they throw themselves into charity work, community work, business, family, etc. and all to avoid acknowledging their own needs.

Soon, they find that nothing they do is ever “good enough.” How could it be? If you set yourself impossible targets and dive into everything and never spend so much as a second on self-care; you’re going to end up exhausted and miserable.

If this sounds like you, I want you to know – there is good news. You can make a dramatic change, today, here and now that will benefit you every day for the rest of your life. This change costs no money and is incredibly easy to do.

Thank Yourself For Being You

Seriously, that’s it. If you’re not feeling appreciated in your life; the best source of validation is not in other people – it’s in you. And if you begin by showing gratitude to yourself for being you; very soon, you’ll feel more peaceful, more cantered and more capable of tackling anything life throws at you.

Here are some tips on saying “thank you” to yourself:

  • Stop beating yourself up when you’re not progressing towards a goal. Start saying “well done” for how far you have already come, instead.
  • Whenever you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself, take a step back, stop and think of something positive to say. Then say it.
  • Let some vanity and sincerity in. Find a mirror, right now, and go look yourself in the eye and meaningfully thank yourself for being you. “You’re awesome! Thanks for being me!” will do nicely.
  • Make a list of ten qualities that you recognize in yourself as valuable and which would matter to others too. Keep that list in your pocket. If you feel down; get it out and look at it. You rock!
  • Now make a list of ten times you made a positive difference in other people’s lives. Write that down too. Keep it in your bag or your wallet. Once again, if you feel blue – get it out and revel in your own hard-earned awesomeness!
  • Treat yourself. If you had a partner do something special for you, you’d treat them to something nice. Well, you do something special for you every single day – take yourself out on your own and celebrate that fact.
  • Make time for yourself. Seriously, you owe yourself at least 30 minutes of fun every single day of your life. Whether it’s gym time or computer game time that you crave – make room for it. Nobody ends their life wishing they’d spent more time in the office. So leave work earlier and have fun.
  • When people compliment you – don’t brush it off. Instead, work out how to accept compliments with grace and kindness. Positive reinforcement from others never hurts. You are special and when people tell you so, listen and thank them for noticing.

There are many other ways for you to thank yourself for being you but this should get you started. Remember, every single person on this planet is truly amazing and you are too. Feel better, feel free and say “thank you” for everything you do for you.

Your Inner Voice Is Getting In Your Way: How To Make It Stop

If you are your own worst critic; you’re not alone. It’s quite amazing how many people’s worst enemy is not some criminal stalking them but themselves. Being self-critical is a valuable skill in small doses but when you are overly critical all the time – you stop yourself from being able to grow.

Your inner critic in essence has stopped being constructive and has turned into a mean-spirited bully and you can’t ever get away from them. So, you need to do something else entirely – you need to get them to shut up.

Fortunately, this isn’t as big a task as it might seem when that bully is in full flow. It’s surprisingly easy to turn off the negative and turn on the positive. Here are 5 simple ways to silence your inner bully.

Treat It Like An Evil Goblin

If you’ve ever seen Labyrinth with David Bowie, then you’ll know that goblins are not lovely elves but rather misshapen and malevolent fantasy beings. They break things and cause chaos wherever they go. But… here’s the thing, they’re also small and easy to deal with if you tackle them head on.

You can pretend that your inner critic is a goblin whispering poison in your ear from a position on your shoulder. What would you do if it was a goblin? You’d flick it off with your hand, wouldn’t you? Well, that’s exactly what you should do.

This is a way of building a mental defence with a physical trigger. It’s not a silly game, it’s supported by science.

Make A List Of Your Own Awesomeness

There is an old salesman’s trick that goes like this. “What I like to do when making a decision is to list all the positives and all the negatives and then pick the action based on the list with the most items on it.”

They then cheat by helping the customer come up with positives while ignoring the negatives. It gets the sale every time.

You can cheat too. Make a list of your own positives. Read it whenever the bully comes to call. Remind yourself that you rock. Send the bully packing because it has no help and it won’t come prepared with a list.

You’ll feel great when you write the list too. So, bonus happy there for you.

Make The Bully Seem Ridiculous

If a bully made a fool out of themselves at school, they immediately lost some of their power, didn’t they? Well, it works on your inner bully too.

Think of a ridiculous ending to a sentence. I quite like to use “because I live in Superman’s underwear draw.” You can make up your own.

When the inner voice comes calling – add that phrase to the end of every sentence it throws at you. You’ll be laughing in no time and that means, it will have lost its power over you. Easy, right?

Be Lovely To Someone Else

The inner bully always disappears in the face of niceness. It’s a strange fact but true all the same. One of the easiest ways to chase it away is simply to pick someone in your environment and pay them a sincere compliment. This creates incongruence in your head and the bully simply vanishes.

Take A High-Level View

Get a satellite image of the earth and then pin your approximate location on it. When the voice comes calling tell yourself, “in the scheme of all this – I have just as much right to be and to be happy as anyone.” Watch it go running.

Conclusion

Your inner critic can add value but if it’s transforming or has transformed into a bully – then it’s time to get tough with it. You see, you do deserve to be happy and you are awesome. Now, you just need the headspace to show that to the world. So use these tips next time the bully comes calling. You’ve got this covered.

The Beliefs That Can Help You Power Through Life

If there’s one tragedy in life, it is this – billions of people are trapped by their own beliefs into leading lives that are less fulfilling and less amazing than they ought to be. They have been taught to frame themselves in the negative and their beliefs that they cannot do things are self-fulfilling.

Yet, it is easy to see such beliefs as false when you place them under examination. Better still, it is relatively simple to restate such beliefs in a true context so that they empower us to succeed rather than cause us to fail.

Here are some limiting beliefs and new ways to see them to free your mind and soul to achieve great things:

Limiting Belief – “I Can’t Be Me”

“I can’t be me. I might be judged for it.”

It’s easy to see how this might stop someone from embodying their true-self, isn’t it? If you’re scared that other people are sneering at you, why try at all?

The good news is that you can reject this belief. Try replacing it with these two instead:

“It is not my role in life to please other people.”

“I can be me. There will never, in all of history, be another person like me.”

The good news? These beliefs are true. They free you from the limiting belief and replace it with a positive.

Limiting Belief – “They Might Say No”

This is usually expressed as, “I can’t ask for what I need, what if someone says no?”

The fear of rejection is a peculiar one. It stems from being part of a social species. It hurts when we are rejected. Yet, the fear is often debilitating and not real. It just holds us back.

These beliefs are better:

“Everybody hears ‘no’ at some point in life. Each ‘no’ carries us closer to ‘yes’.”

And… “If I don’t ask for something, you probably won’t get it.”

This may be one of the biggest signs of successful people. When they let go of the fear of rejection, life becomes much easier.

Limiting Belief – “I Can’t Trust People”

Sure, “I can’t trust people they might betray my trust.” might feel true. But in reality, if you don’t trust people, how can you expect to work with them and to benefit from their help and love as you help and love them?

A fear of something that may never come is not your friend. Many people are completely trustworthy and given your trust they will grow it into something amazing with you.

These beliefs will help you strengthen your bonds with others:

“Unless someone shows they are untrustworthy, they are deserving of my trust.”

“I must trust people, in order to form meaningful relationships.”

All Limiting Beliefs Can Be Reversed

If you have a limiting belief in life, it can be reversed. Nothing you believe needs to be objectively true, unless you really want it to be. Freedom in life comes from choosing the right beliefs for your mindset.

5 Unsinkable Mindsets: How to Hardwire Your Life’s Success

I LEARNED FROM TWO UNSINKABLE PEOPLE

When I think about unsinkable, Tony Robbins and Les Brown (Coach and Motivational Speaker respectively) began life with serious disadvantage low income conditioning and no male exemplar of hope and success in their lives.

Today, both are exemplars of unsinkable hope and success. Unsinkable means incapable of sinking. Despite tremendous odds, they are now incapable of sinking. Instead of accepting their lot in life, they rejected their circumstances and created a winning narrative for themselves. I’m on this path. And, I want you to join too.

Be unsinkable in the face of adversity in 5 ways:

#1 BE SPECIFIC AND UNCOMPROMISING ABOUT YOUR DREAM:

Choose your dream career or life despite it feeling unrealistic or insecure, because a choice born of fear, instead of hope, is failure in sheep’s clothing. You make your career or life safe and secure with discerning choices you make.

#2 BE DISCERNING ABOUT GROWING PAIN VS SUFFERING:

Moving in the direction of your dream will cause growing pains, while moving away from it causes suffering.

#3 BE VIGILANT AND AVOID RUMINATING ON FAILURES:

You maintain your life’s momentum when you avoid failure rooting in your mind, because it will grow into tree of disappointment and suffering. Keep looking for your dream and you’ll see it come to pass, as your thoughts and actions point you toward it.

#4 BE PRESENT:

Never let your dream chasing disciplines or routines become so routine they lose value and momentum toward your career or life dreams. You do this by being proactive in what you eat, drink, and think keeping your dream’s achievement at the forefront of all you do.

#5 BE YOURSELF:

It’s the only person success was sent to find and no one else.

About Coach John St. John, Author, Trainer, Blogger, and Speaker

With 20+ years’ proven experience coaching and developing individual’s excellence as personal, professional, and leadership development interventions, I have helped small business to corporate organizations like Wal-Mart, Steri-Cycle, Kaiser Permanente, Alstom, Best Western International, Federal Aviation Administration, Dish Network, and many more create work/life success — individually to corporately. My approach focuses on audiences learning, practicing, and producing results sooner than expected. And, I’ll help you or your audience shift toward their greatness, too.

Continue your work/life success journey at http://bigguylittlekitchen.com/

Why The World Needs You To Be a Start-Up In 2019

In case you missed it, here are some harsh facts to go with you morning latte-

    • Almost 200 species of living beings have gone extinct in the past 50 years alone — a rate of two per year.
    • ‘Dead zones’, i.e. Ocean locations where nothing can live, have increased by 75 per cent
    • Right now, an estimated 780 million people on the planet have no access to clean drinking water
    • It is predicted that based of today’s rate of deforestation, we may only be left with 10% of our rainforests by the year 2030
    • & probably, most importantly- global warming is causing unprecedented climate change that could result in the Earth’s 6th mass extinction event.

Trevor Banerjee - Coach to Green Startups

Why am I sharing this checklist of doom & gloom with you? As much as I may come across like the Grinch who stole Christmas, I generally tend to have a very positive outlook to life (I mean, as a Life Coach one would hope so!) however, these are the ugly facts that many of us choose to ignore and unless we pay attention and choose to do something, we risk losing… well, everything.

You see, I help small and medium sized businesses overcome any limitations that may be experiencing to help them grow and here’s the surprising fact- most of the time, those limitations lie in the minds of the Entrepreneur.

However, I’ve noticed is that these ‘Self-Limiting Beliefs’ as I like to call them, are most prevalent in the minds of another group of people; those who wish to start their own business, BUT DON’T.

These beliefs could be anything from ‘I have a brilliant idea but I don’t know how to run a business’ to ‘What if I fail and lose what I’ve worked hard for’ and everything in between. But once that limiting belief is converted into a positive mindset, I have seen mice turn into self-sufficient, employee-hiring, six-figure earning lions.

Trevor Banerjee - Business Coach

There are a number of exercises we go through to create this transformation, but one of the most important ones that I want to share with you today is this-

I teach my clients to get out of their own head and into the minds of the people they wish to serve. I help them understand that by NOT starting their business, they are depriving their potential client off a product or service that could add so much value into their lives.  

So if you have a business idea that you believe could, dare I say, save this world, then it’s no longer important for you to bring that vision to life, it is imperative.

Thus, here’s my message to you-

Mother Earth and all her children are under threat and she’s going to need all the help she can get. If you can do something within the realms of your current job, then great. But if it requires you starting something of your own, and the only thing standing in the way is your limiting beliefs, then kick aside; you have more important things to do.

Limiting beliefs have been responsible for the destruction of countless dreams.
We can’t allow it to be responsible for the destruction of the world.

 

About the Author

Trevor Banerjee is a Life Coach, Business Mentor, Motivational Speaker and Author of the Amazon Best-Seller, The Freedom Switch

He is passionate about the current crisis regarding climate change and the systematically destroying the planet, and he wants to do something about it. Which is why he has initiated a new coaching program that takes people from ‘Employee to Entrepreneur in 90 Days’. To know more about the program, feel free to book a complimentary 30 minute session with Trevor here