How to express gratitude to yourself

It is often said, that we are own worst enemies. It’s said so often that it has become cliché. The trouble with cliché is that buried within it – is truth.

Even the best people can find themselves at war with their own interests; they throw themselves into charity work, community work, business, family, etc. and all to avoid acknowledging their own needs.

Soon, they find that nothing they do is ever “good enough.” How could it be? If you set yourself impossible targets and dive into everything and never spend so much as a second on self-care; you’re going to end up exhausted and miserable.

If this sounds like you, I want you to know – there is good news. You can make a dramatic change, today, here and now that will benefit you every day for the rest of your life. This change costs no money and is incredibly easy to do.

Thank Yourself For Being You

Seriously, that’s it. If you’re not feeling appreciated in your life; the best source of validation is not in other people – it’s in you. And if you begin by showing gratitude to yourself for being you; very soon, you’ll feel more peaceful, more cantered and more capable of tackling anything life throws at you.

Here are some tips on saying “thank you” to yourself:

  • Stop beating yourself up when you’re not progressing towards a goal. Start saying “well done” for how far you have already come, instead.
  • Whenever you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself, take a step back, stop and think of something positive to say. Then say it.
  • Let some vanity and sincerity in. Find a mirror, right now, and go look yourself in the eye and meaningfully thank yourself for being you. “You’re awesome! Thanks for being me!” will do nicely.
  • Make a list of ten qualities that you recognize in yourself as valuable and which would matter to others too. Keep that list in your pocket. If you feel down; get it out and look at it. You rock!
  • Now make a list of ten times you made a positive difference in other people’s lives. Write that down too. Keep it in your bag or your wallet. Once again, if you feel blue – get it out and revel in your own hard-earned awesomeness!
  • Treat yourself. If you had a partner do something special for you, you’d treat them to something nice. Well, you do something special for you every single day – take yourself out on your own and celebrate that fact.
  • Make time for yourself. Seriously, you owe yourself at least 30 minutes of fun every single day of your life. Whether it’s gym time or computer game time that you crave – make room for it. Nobody ends their life wishing they’d spent more time in the office. So leave work earlier and have fun.
  • When people compliment you – don’t brush it off. Instead, work out how to accept compliments with grace and kindness. Positive reinforcement from others never hurts. You are special and when people tell you so, listen and thank them for noticing.

There are many other ways for you to thank yourself for being you but this should get you started. Remember, every single person on this planet is truly amazing and you are too. Feel better, feel free and say “thank you” for everything you do for you.

Running A Small Business Is Stressful

If feels like stating the obvious but running a small business may be one of the most stressful things in the world. In larger businesses – responsibility is shared for most things. But in a small business, one person often carries nearly all of the weight.

That doesn’t mean, however, that running a small business has to be stressful. There are ways to improve productivity and lower your costs without being stressful for you. Here’s how:

Create A Clear Vision Of What You Want

I’m not talking about writing a fancy vision statement (as marketing departments love to do) but I am suggesting that you visualize what “success” looks like within your business’s context.

After all, if you don’t know what it looks like, how will you know when you get there? Also, it’s important because it allows you to build a series of sense checks for decision making.

If you can see where your future lays, you can ask, “Does this action bring us/me any closer to the future I envisioned? If not, why not? Should I let this go or make changes in my vision?”

You can, of course, change your vision but most of the time, you won’t want to. Knowing where you want to go, lets you see the route more easily. It lets you stop wasting time on things that aren’t important to your business. The more time you free up to do important things, the less stressed you will be.

It will also improve productivity (you’ll have more time to do things) and reduce costs (you won’t spend money on pointless pursuits). Pretty easy, right?

Don’t Be Afraid To Seek Help

You are not superhuman. No one person can have all the skills and talents necessary to make a successful business in today’s society.

Do not be afraid to seek help. You might want a mentor (someone who has succeeded in your field or a related field already) who can help guide you through the growing pains of your business life. Reach out to a professional association or via Linked In or a local networking group – these people not only exist but are often delighted to help.

You might need an answer to a quick query (you’d be amazed at how easy it is to find an expert online and get a response instantly) or anywhere in between these two points.

It’s also possible to outsource the tasks you hate the most or at which you suck the most. Life can feel much better if you can give the accounting to an accountant or the mailing to a postal outsourcing service.

You don’t have to do everything. You do need the help of others. It’s not embarrassing to realize this. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – humans are social creatures, we’re happiest in groups. Forming a group of people around you to help with your business is the smartest thing you can do. Start today.