When life gives you lemons, make lemonade

Nothing in this world is given to you freely. You have to work hard to earn your success. Sometimes, you may feel that the world is against you. When things get tough, then you need to persevere. We all have been through times when things do not go our way. Whether going through tough times is related to work, family, or life; you can make it through this ordeal. Here are some tips that we provide you to help you through the tough times. These tips may not work for everyone, but it had helped us when we went through some hard times.

  1. Keep on being positive and do not let depression creep in
    The statement may sound simple, but you need to keep a positive attitude. There may be times when you feel depressed because you think that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Somehow you need to put a smile on your face maybe not for yourself but the around you. People may get their strength from your resiliency to negativity. Sometimes, the only way out of a bad situation is to think positive.
  2. Be thankful with what you have
    You may watch the news and see senseless violence, starvation, political instability around the globe. Some people are going through some serious issues because of things that they can not control in their environment. No matter how bad things can get, you need to think about what you have in your life. This could be your health, family, friends, or your basic life needs being met. You need to find the one thing that you are thankful for even if things are falling apart. Be grateful and humble with the things that you have in life.
  3. Think about what you can manage
    You are a single part of a larger, complex set of activities that make up your environment. You can only control the components, the tasks, and decisions that are within your purvue. You can not think about the things that you can not control. Instead, narrow your vision and focus on what you can control in your life.
  4. Love yourself
    Take a look in the mirror. The person looking back at you is your reflection. You need to find peace with your observation and love yourself. You need to love yourself first before you can love others.
  5. Ask for help
    There is no shame to ask for help from others. There may be things that are just out of your control. If there are people, who can help you make things easier for you then ask for their assistance. The people who love you and value you as a person would have no problem lending a hand.
  6. Make it a life lesson
    We all learn valuable lessons from past experiences. Especially, when those experiences challenge you. The hard times that you go through now can provide valuable learning experiences for you in the future. Try to find those lessons to help make you wiser and more prepared for any difficult situations that may arise in the future.

Rare and Beautiful it is to even EXIST!

No, I am not the owner of this line, but isn’t this truly meaningful in this seemingly meaningless world? You are glancing at the above line reading it again on your phone or computer to find deeper meaning. And now you wonder, who the hell is this guy and what is he even talking? And you don’t realize that you don’t want to read this whole post that literally talks about nothing yet almost everything but you can’t resist it, can you? At least, I can’t while I type this.

So, to answer the above question, the line is from a song called Saturn from Sleeping At Last. It has beautiful music, amazing lyrics, and breathtaking visuals. Be sure to check it out. But why does it matter? It matters because we are here and we exist. But then something strikes me like lightening does, do we really exist? That’s what I intend to find out by the end of this post.

I have been on a train of uncertainty my whole life traveling to the destinations I could be certain of. But finally, I have realized the basic understanding of uncertainty or even life. At this point of my life, if I am certain of anything, then it is uncertainty of life. Read it again. It’s amazing, isn’t it? Let me put this in Mark Manson’s quote in ‘The Subtle Art Of Not Giving AF*ck’, “The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” But this is not just about me. It’s about us. So, let’s talk about us.

What do you think light is? Such a silly question, immature me! No, literally what is light? Ask yourselves first. Now, light is absence of darkness. Correct. So it means light can exist when darkness doesn’t exist. But, wait! Then, it means light is dependent on darkness. And even if only one of them can exist at a time, it can’t exist if there is no existence of another. Shit, mystery solved. Not really. Knowing this phenomenon is of no use if I don’t know how to apply this shit in real life. But, how can this help me in real life? It can’t right? Or maybe it can. Back to the point.

I was recently watching Former President of USA, Barack Obama’s eulogy of Late John McCain where he re-quoted Ernest Hemingway, “Today is only one day in all the days that will ever be. But what will happen in all the other days that ever come can depend on what you do today.” And I wondered, it’s all about this day, this hour and this moment. Everything depends on right now. And there is no such thing is right time. In fact, there is no such thing as time (let’s save this crap for later). Everything that you do will, directly or indirectly, affect your life. You don’t know it yet, but it’s going to come back to you. I can promise you that. Then, why do we waste our “right now” moment in grieving about the past or worrying about the future?

Now, we are talking. Because, more than anything, my friend, life is all about the Game of Regrets. Regretting about the thing you did or thinking about regretting things you might do. But we don’t realize that regretting about yesterday is going to make us regret tomorrow about today you wasted in regretting. Wait, WTF? Yup, read it again. So, it means we don’t have to regret about anything. Maybe not. I don’t have any regrets. I have been called selfish, greedy, careless and whatnot. And I have also been called a best friend, best person and best son. It’s not me, who is different. The perceptions are. I don’t regret anything because everything that I knowingly or unknowingly did have helped me reach here, to right now. And right now is beautiful. I am happy. So, there is no place regrets.

So, accepting what you have done yesterday, what you are right now and what you will do tomorrow is the only way forward.

We need to understand why beautiful is really beautiful – because there is ugly. Without existence of ugliness, there is no such thing as beauty. Without day, there is no night. Without night, there is no light. Without light, there is no darkness. And the list goes on, but you get the point. We need to learn how to accept both happiness and sadness. We need to accept both light and darkness. We need to accept both beauty as well as ugliness. We need to accept for the things that they are. Let me tell you that you are beautiful. You are strong. You are fierce. And there will always be a storm coming at your way, one after the other. There will always be something to run after beyond that horizon. The race to the horizon and beyond will continue for ages and more. But you will make it beyond that horizon and the horizon beyond that. You will, trust me. Only, if you believe in right now. Only if you think right now is only thing you have and you have to make it through this moment, and repeat again and again and again. And always remember to tell yourself Hemingway’s line whenever you lose the sight of horizon – Today is the only day in all the days that will ever be. But what will happen in all the other days that ever come can depend on what you do today.

And right now is rare and beautiful. It truly is. You ask me, why? Because, we exist!

Welcome 2019!!!!

Hello Everyone!!!

I know I am a little late for this but I believe there is never late to wish,

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2019.

I hope 2018 treated everyone well. It also treated me well and taught me a lot of things that are really important not only for your personal but also for professional growth.

Every day brings the joy of living with it, a joy of life, a joy we all always wanted. But what is missing is the enthusiasm to welcome that joy and eventually a “HAPPY NEW YEAR”, turns to “What is so extra-ordinary about this year?”

I know this happens. Everyone partied hard, some took resolutions which are never going to be taken care of and some just started the New Year thanking God for life and enough food for that particular night.

So let us make this year extra-ordinary by not doing what we did for the last many years. Here is a to-do list for an extra-ordinary 2019.

Be thankful

Yes exactly. Be thankful for everything in life. Life is the most priceless gift we all have got from the Almighty. So, rather than complaining about the hardships that you go through every day, try to think of it as the ladder to happiness and success. Hardships are a part of every person’s life. What counts is how well you take them and boast your life in spite of those.

Aim to grow

Aim high and keep growing. Aiming to grow is not only based on the profession but also personal and it will happen only with constant effort and the curiosity to learn. Try and grow in the field of your choice. You might have a formal degree in engineering or medicine or you might be a chartered accountant, if you are not happy with your job profile, take efforts towards changing it to something you are good at.

Self-learning

Life is a perfect teacher for each one of us, it depends how good we students are to take the lessons positively. 2019 is going to be a year where constant learning is going to matter. With a lot of technological advancement, it has become extremely important that you to stay updated, so in the long run, you do not become obsolete. Learning is the only way to build a perfect future in this fast-paced world.

Stay away from peer pressure

Peer pressure is something our generation is struggling to stay away from. I have friends who are doing and buying things only because someone else in his/her group owns it. The truth is people who own certain things have either earned it or struggling hard to sustain that lifestyle. We all should see the hard work and efforts taken to sustain a rich lifestyle by people rather than just seeing the materialistic gains they have.

So, if you spend the New Year’s at your place with your parents, there is nothing to be ashamed or be disappointed. The joy of spending your new year with parents is totally different.

So stay away from peer pressure and make your own path. You never know the path of hardships may bring you to a place better than where your peers are right now.

Calm down

Do not rush towards anything, be it life goals, career goals or monetary and material goals. Do not fall for unreasonable claims of becoming rich since there is no shortcut to earning a lot of money. The only way to earn money is to be good at what you do, because if you are the best, people are willing to pay the amount you quote without negotiation.

The best example is the Apple iPhone. Every one of us wants to own an iPhone at least once in our lifetime, but we also know that it might take a whole lifetime to buy one. iPhone has built its reputation and quality, not in one single night, it is a result of constant efforts of a community. From engineers, programmers and CEO’s till the marketing team, everyone has one single goal and worked unitedly towards it.

So, if anything is meant to be for you, no one in the world can take it from you. Hence, stay calm, do what you do best and I am sure you will also emerge as one single force in the society.

 Work hard, party harder

Last, but not least.

Give your best at what you do, work hard, aim high and work towards it. Keep working hard, but prioritize work and life. Have a work-life balance.

Work-life balance is something many of us fail to maintain. We either work a lot or live a lot and forget to do the other one. Working is important, but make sure you rest well, enjoy life so that the work and life do not become monotonous.

Try doing things differently, try to innovate something, try to learn something new, and try to take a trip even if it is for a day or two. Do everything but do it in style.

Finally, I hope 2019 brings a lot and a lot of success and happiness to each and everyone reading this one and also to people whom you care for and your families.

Tell us in the comment below, how would you make your 2019 different than others and what are your New Year resolutions.

All the best everyone for a successful 2019.

Keep Smiling!!

Happy 2019 once again!!!

His name is Christian Viñas…

Hi, my name is Christian Viñas, age 21 years old, currently residing in the Philippines, and one of the new(est)? writers here on TheStartupGrowth.com. I was invited by TheStartupGrowth.com when they privately messaged me on my LinkedIn account. I found that there’s great opportunity by joining in as a guest author, so I did. That’s how my Christmas weekend went. 

Anyway, I like chess (hence feature image), badminton and bowling. I spend most of my time binging on movies/documentaries available on Youtube/any other streaming platform. Either that, or I’m working as part of a tech team three bus rides away from our house. Oh yeah, I write for WhenInManila.com, too. (WhenInManila.com is also a startup here in the Philippines and its main focus is on Filipino lifestyle, food, and travel advice.)

I’m excited to contribute to this community, but I feel like an introduction could be my better move. Ease it in, as they say. I’ll probably give insight on how to handle business matters once or twice a month, since I’m kept busy by my immediate work with the family.

With that out of the way, I hope that what I can add up . I can promise you that, ’cause I never even told anyone what the first rule of Fight Club is…

Cheers and here’s to a good 2019 to all of us!
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HOW NOT TO KNOW

“I would rather have questions that can’t be answered than answers that can’t be questioned.”

― Richard Feynman

Often, I am asked by those close to me, family and friends, ‘Oh, haven’t you learned enough? Didn’t you have enough training? What do you need that course for? When are you going to stop spending time and money on that?’ etc, etc. Of course, my initial reaction is to snap back and become defensive, but then, that leads nowhere. People simply have different values, different viewpoints…For me, learning and growing is like air and water. Those that do not feel that way – I can appreciate that that’s fine for them. I’d like them to appreciate my attitude too – actually it is not an attitude only, it is a way of life…

And so, (we shouldn’t start a sentence with ‘and’, but I’m inspired to break those shoulds!) instead I decided to use the source of irritation (those near and dear judging me or not understanding me) as a source of inspiration! To write, instead of rant. To present, instead of defending. To offer, instead of arguing…

Learning comes from curiosity and limitless desire for growth. It also comes from the ability to stay open, receptive to change, to new ways of looking at things. It is underpinned by curiosity, child-like innocence, belief that anything is possible and courage – courage to try, fail, learn and try again. The courage to be vulnerable and therefore be exposed to hurt, pain, judgement…

I have heard the term ‘course junkie’ many times, but it seems to be only a label put on the people who are ‘seekers’ by those who are not. Also, I see a difference in the starting point – a behind the scenes talk in your head, such as ‘I am not good enough, I need this in order to be better, smarter, more spiritual, more educated or similar.’ and the one which runs like ‘I am really curious about this, I want to know more. I want to explore and grow and even though I am OK as I am, I know I can always grow, push limits”…One approach is inspired by turning away from(feeling of not good enough, feeling inadequate or unable to deal with life’s situations), whereas the other one is inspired by turning towards (growth, pursuit of excellence, pushing boundaries, creation and innovation of self). I know because I have experienced both, I was running away and running towards. To be honest, it does not matter where you are coming from, if you are moving rather than being stuck, you are actually more likely to be living your life than avoiding it!

Katherine Woodward Thomas refers to it as ‘living the questions’. It is spending your life in enquiry, in wonderment and also being able to tolerate the uncertainty – not knowing. The rigid mind is fixed in right or wrong, correct or false, there are only definitive answers and judgement. The not-knowing bit is really difficult to tolerate, the mind is always racing trying to find a solution. I can tell you though, that my life really started to change once I shifted my focus on asking questions, rather than frantically trying to find solutions, to respond to everything and everyone, first of all to my ego’s calling. Asking questions, quality questions, that bring insight, as opposed to asking questions that demand a quick fix solution, is what I found creates incremental, but sustained change. Sometimes the change can be a breakthrough – a moment when illusions and until then deeply rooted cherished beliefs are shattered -like a glass ball bursting into million shards in front of you. You may get cut or grazed a bit in the process, but your eyes and your mind will be focused on the pouring light that is coming through – the fresh insight.

In juxtaposition to a rigid, closed mind, that believes has all answers (or even avoids contemplating that questions are endless, let alone answers), is a fluid, open mind that allows uncertainty as well as the possibility that something else, apart from black and white thinking, can be an existential basis from which to direct your life. The Buddhists call it ‘Beginner’s Mind’, in Christianity we are asked to ‘become like little children’ in order to enter the kingdom of heaven. In the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono it is the process of cleaning your mind of all memories and returning to ‘zero state’ which is actually the state of divine love inside us, the state free of judgement, blame, guilt, shame and polarity such as ‘right or wrong’. In his book ‘Zero Limits’ that is what Joe Vitale refers to – by taking full responsibility for our thoughts, actions and our lives, without self-blame, and cleaning ourselves of all guilt, resentment, fear and judgement, we actually get ‘back to zero’. A place where we really have no limits, and everything is possible. It is the same as ‘being in innocence’ and allowing the possibility that ‘we do not know anything, therefore, everything is possible’ according to Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey.

Throughout history, there have been many spiritual practises and philosophies that have challenged our beliefs, pre-conceptions, and perceptions that we assumed – were knowledge. After all, what is knowledge? Isn’t it so that new discoveries are always replacing old facts, theories and beliefs, that change is the only constant thing? I have always been fascinated by Koans, self-paradoxical riddles and questions used in Zen Buddhism to exhaust the analytic and egoic mind in order to reveal the more intuitive no-mind. They are not about arriving at an answer, they are more about the revelation that there are no fully satisfying answers.

From time to time I remind myself that it is all about our perception and if I keep asking myself ‘how do I know that?” I will actually never arrive at a definitive answer – it will just be a temporary perception, or perhaps a belief that is so strong and deeply rooted that we equate it with reality. Floating and frolicking with joy on the open seas of a fluid, open mind, is much more fun, and brings the much-craved sense of freedom. It is the freedom from self, rather than of self.

So learning how to unlearn and cleanse and empty your mind is one of the most powerful ways to keep growing. As the Zen master says in this little koan:

https://fractalenlightenment.com/37292/spirituality/5-zen-koans-that-will-open-your-mind

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Resources:

Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind, Shunryu Suzuki

Zero Limits, Joe Vitale, Ihaleakala Hew Len

The Hero’s Journey, Joseph Campbell

4 Delicious Ways to Put Essential Nutrients Back Into Your Day!


Common Problem

Your healthiest mind and body require essential nutrients in your daily intake, which include:

· Carbohydrates

· Protein

· Fat

· Water

· Vitamins

· Minerals

· Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Oftentimes, we don’t get enough of these and your health and wellness take a hit.

Source of Truth

According to Dr. Josh Axe, Doctor and Clinical Nutritionist with the #1 Natural Health Website in the World, says low protein intake can manifest itself in many ways:

· Low Energy

· Fatigue

· Poor Concentration

· Moodiness

· Bone/Joint Pain, Low Immunity

· Fatty Liver (What happened to me)

Source: 9 Signs of a Protein Deficiency + How to Fix www.draxe.com

Consult your doctor, before increasing your protein intake significantly.

One Solution

Meanwhile, NuGoNutrition.com #nugocookies has a sweet protein option that will help supplement your daily protein needs. NuGo has 4 delicious cookies packing 16 grams of pea protein and 10–12 grams of Fiber!

Pea protein contains 9 of the 11 essential amino acids your body needs including BCAA’s (Branch Chain Amino Acids) for muscle strength, growth, and workout recovery, according to Men’s Health Writer Aleisha Fetters.

Source: Pea Protein Power is Trendy Right Now — But Should You Buy It?

By integrating small amounts of lean, grass-fed meat or wild caught seafood, beans, leafy greens, and snacks like NuGo Cookies, you will begin feeling a lot better: Mind and Body.

Results You Can Expect

Imagine how much more you could accomplish with a fully present mind and body. Say, goodbye morning and mid-day sluggishness and coffee jitters, say hello to nutrient-rich alertness and energy that’s good for you and the planet. You can begin getting more organic, nutrient rich Pea Protein with a NuGo Cookie — today.

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Wrapping Up

Here’s a quick reminder to take advantage of these small shifts for big gains, so you can eat, drink, think, and thrive personally and professionally — everyday!

Continue Your Learning Journey

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Hopefully todays tips, will help you eat, drink, think, and thrive to drive success in your personal and professional life, which are endurance races.

I offer you two secret weapons, to win your work/life races:

1. Winning foods, behaviors, and mindset combinations to create the capacity and circumstances for success at work/life.

2. Me, as your 20+ Year Veteran coach of the work/life event, to discuss your eating, drinking, and thinking strategies packed with essential nutrients and knowledge successful athletes consume to thrive!

Join me to learn more about the amazing body, positive mind, and success behavior options that will give you the fuel needed for your work/life success rocket.

To continue your journey, visit http://bigguylittlekitchen.com/ for body, mind, and behavior resource links you’ll love!

About Coach John St. John, Author, Trainer, Blogger, and Speaker

With 20+ years’ proven experience coaching and developing individual’s excellence as personal, professional, and leadership development interventions, I have helped small business to corporate organizations like Wal-Mart, Steri-Cycle, Kaiser Permanente, Alstom, Best Western International, Federal Aviation Administration, Dish Network, and many more create work/life success — individually to corporately. My approach focuses on audiences learning, practicing, and producing results sooner than expected. And, I’ll help you or your audience shift toward their greatness, too.

Why Entrepreneurship Matters: Meet Kaley.

Kaley had it all… or did she?

Kaley is an inspirational client of ours at . Coach LLC. Nobody embodies better the principles we stand by as a company better than her.

Kaley Zeitouni began her career at 14 years old when she founded the nonprofit organization Youth Against MultipleSclerosis (YAMS).

As a natural born leader with an unwavering passion to make an impact, Kaley has inspired thousands across the globe as a motivational speaker sharing her experience being diagnosed with MS at age 12.  After twenty years living with the auto-immune disease, Kaley healed herself from MS and now coaches others with chronic illness to also experience relief from illness, transform their health blueprint, and live healthy lives.

While living with and curing herself of a chronic illness would seem like enough to keep someone busy for a lifetime, Kaley’s passion doesn’t end there. Life threw another curveball in 2016 when Kaley’s fiancé died suddenly at 29 years old. Today Kaley speaks openly about her experience with grief and loss and developed a coaching program to help others who have lost a spouse or partner to truly heal and restore a sense of wholeness in their lives.

Kaley combines her professional skills as a Marriage and Family Therapist with her personal experiences facing life’s biggest challenges to lovingly and empathically help others to achieve what society deems impossible. Kaley is a published author and continues to empower and inspire others to heal from within, whether from loss or illness.

The following is a real-life account of what growing a startup really is all about. It is raw, genuine and filled with inspiration. Enjoy

Last week, I left the office where I had a“good job” for the last time. If you asked me a year ago, that image would have been terrifying, but when the day finally arrived, it was the greatest feeling ever. 

For years, I had what society would call “great positions.” I had the title, the salary, and I was always extremely good at my job. So you can imagine everyone’s surprise when I gave notice without another full time “job” to go to. Instead, I left to grow my coaching business, working with people experiencing the loss of a spouse/partner to heal and transform their lives.  

Two years ago my fiancé died suddenly. I was broken. The pain was so excruciating, there were moments I thought I was going to physically just split down the middle.  Having had a previous career as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I knew that weekly therapy wasn’t going to be enough to heal. I called upon my mentors and coaches to get me through this time, along with others who had had similar experiences. I came to hate the phrase “time heals,” which people repeated constantly during that time. If I was in so much pain why would I wait for time to heal. Through hard work and finding every possible resource, not only did I heal, I discovered a new me and a new level of happiness I didn’t know existed. 

I started sharing these tools with others facing loss, and I was amazed by the results. I saw that it is possible to proactively heal rather than wait for “time” and to do so in a healthy way without letting go of your loved one. I felt called to do this on a larger scale but didn’t know how to monetize it not to mention all the fears about leaving the seeming security of my job. 

I had heard about coaches and authors who were making six or seven figures but part of me didn’t believe that was possible. It also just seemed like a far-off dream to be able to spend my time helping people in a way that felt aligned with my soul, and earn enough to not work80 hours a week.

Turns out, I was wrong.  About eight months ago, I found two amazing coaches, Sai Blackbyrn and IgnacioPerez, who helped me see that my dream was not only possible but that I owed it to the world to live my best self.

There is an important Jewish teaching that states that when we die, the Creator will not ask us why we weren’t more like Moses or any of our other leaders. Instead, we will be asked why we weren’t more like Kaley. Sai and Perez hit that message home for me on a daily basis. 

They coached me through the exact steps of building my business which I did alongside my 12 hour day job. Word of mouth kept spreading even before I had a website up, so they coached me through each prospective call in order to attract my ideal client. Within a couple months the scales tipped and not only did it become impossible to keep doing both, I realized I didn’t have to. 

With every passing day, I feel honoured to be a companion for others experiencing grief and I am grateful for the opportunity to live life on my terms rather than the hamster wheel I was stuck in for years. The idea of creating my own business, being self-employed, seemed so daunting. I thought it would take years to get here. I always knew I was born to be an entrepreneur but I could have stayed stuck in the fear for years. Having the right guidance and focusing on the results rather than getting stuck in the details allowed me to turn my life around in just six months and now I get to focus on the adventure ahead.

To me, coaching is all about giving back. It is about being a role model — maintaining my own integrity in the face of adversity. It is honouring someone’s journey and empowering them to heal from within and in turn manifest their full beauty in the world.

Today I live a dream and it is because I took a leap of faith and believed all would work out.

Kaley Zeitouni 

It did.

So take the leap.

You’ll thank me later

-Kaley

 

The Top Foundational Qualities Of The Best Leaders

“We are social animals and we respond to the environment we’re in. Always. Our very survival depends on our ability to trust and cooperate with the people we live or work with. Leaders are responsible for that environment. And Leaders forget that, they think they are responsible for the results. There’s not a leader on the planet who is responsible for the result. Leaders are responsible for the people, who are responsible for the result. And if you take care of the people, take care of the environment, things go just fine.

— Simon Sinek

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Imagine for a moment that the role of an executive leader is, at its core, to create an environment that inspires and supports people to collectively contribute towards a greater future for the organisation.

Got it?

Ok then, if that’s true, then what are the keys to success? What tools do leaders need at hand for this mission? What mental models must they run through daily?

Leading others is a great privilege and responsibility. As our awareness grows and we learn more, we may discover more and more evidence that we are living in an incredible time in human history. There are tremendous challenges in poverty and privilege, sickness and health, freedom and imprisonment. Right now the world needs you to step up and lean into your leadership, it needs your unique gifts, wisdom and talents- that only you have. And it’s right there within you.

The power to make a difference.

By bringing out the best in yourself and your people, you can make a positive difference. You can start simply with changing yourself- those effects ripple out and compound. The best way to start is with strong foundations. So today I want to encourage you to come back to leading from these three guiding principles – Trust, Service and Love. We know from hundreds and thousands of hours of research, learning and development that these are the proven and foundational qualities to top executive leadership.

1. EARN THEIR TRUST EVERY DAY

The depth to which your people trust you is at the root of how they will show up, what you can ask from each other and how you and your team perform. When you are surrounded by happy, creative, engaged and inspired people, it’s no surprise that it pushes you to even greater depths and heights of achievement. The way to draw this out of your team or attract the right members to your team is to go first.

It’s extremely difficult for a selfish leader to gain someone else’s trust. Once people know you are “in it for yourself,” they’ll only trust you to do what’s best for you – meaning they know you won’t look out for them. Gaining the trust of other people requires that you consistently (consistently- not constantly! You don’t need to be perfect, you just need to be consistently making progress) take into consideration your team’s needs when making decisions, and stand up for them if they do what you ask, especially if things don’t turn out as planned. Once people know you have their back, trust develops naturally.

TAKE THESE ACTIONS TO BUILD TRUST

Appearance and Confidence– As obvious as it sounds, your professional appearance and confidence in yourself is one of the key reasons people will or won’t grant you their trust. So dress like today is important because as far a you can guarantee today is the only day that you can live in. If you dress for each day expectantly, importantly, beautifully, then each day will become that. People will react differently to you if you dress as if it matters.

Reliability– Be someone who can be counted on, show up on time to meetings and work, be prepared, underpromise and overdeliver, be conscious of what you say yes to because when you make a commitment, follow through. Close the loop on all expectations and if sometimes you fall short, do whatever it takes to make it right.

Credibility– Know yourself: your strengths, weaknesses, personality and leadership profiles.There are many tests you can take: Myers Briggs, 16 personalities, DISC, Enneagram, the Demartini Value Determination test and many others. Most of these tests rely on your self assessment of a set of questions- which is completely subjective. So let me share with you the one test that I’ve found which doesn’t rely on subjective guesses but objectively measures your true ability.

One of the most valuable tools I’ve had the privilege of experiencing is the work by Natural Ability. Using the Highlands Ability Battery- a gold standard aptitude assessment tool, Natural Ability helps you understand your unique natural abilities and the role your abilities play in how you can find happiness and success in major life issues like career planning, career change, team building and team dynamics and relationships.

Natural Ability delivers an Individual Ability Identity program which includes world-class aptitude testing, personalised reporting, 12-month email support and a 2 hour one-on-one counselling session in person or over Skype/ phone.

Having gone through the process myself, I was so impressed by the value of the test, Robert’s support and the clarity this world-class test delivered that I partnered with Natural Ability.

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Bring value to the table:know what you’re supposed to know and do what you’re supposed to do. Learn all you can about your business and industry, step up when needed. Be congruent in your words and actions: it’s ok to say you don’t know but you will find out.

Connection– Make your presence felt, and add value. Build rapport and relationship with others, learn something from them or about them every time you interact, find out what matters to them and help them get it. Listen, understand and give.

Transparency– Build and encourage openness and honesty in your team and people. The old ways of hiding information and keeping employees in the dark are dead. Life exists in the leaders and teams that demonstrate transparency and open communication, people respond to what is real and true. People have grown tired of leaders who hoard what they know to consolidate their power. They want leaders to be proactive in sharing where the organisation is headed and forthright about its future. Really people just want transparency so they can plan and protect themselves, don’t you? The world is changing rapidly and trying to control what people think and know is a losing battle. It’s far more powerful and enjoyable to build relationships and engage so people can decide for themselves if working with you in your organisation is in alignment with their personal values, skills, talents and expertise. This is what will build a healthy, collaborative and innovative work culture.

2. SERVE YOUR PEOPLE

If you can lead from where all your choices align with two principles, earn trust and serve your people, then you will be able to dive past your own fears, insecurities and doubts and deeply access your true state. Your true self is a being of love, connection and peace. And when you remember that you’ve always known this, then you realise that you’ve forgotten this truth. And the truth is it’s not about me, it’s not about you, it’s not about them.

It’s about us.

It’s important you remember this because as you gain more power and influence, unless you’ve built or come into a strong positive culture of trust and where openness and honest feedback is encouraged, powerful leaders seldom get useful feedback in their organizations.

Your teammates and those you manage are loath to give bad news or critical feedback, and many boards are not diligent in seeing feedback for performance improvement, particularly relationships, as important as other things, such as financial results. There are enormous stresses on your shoulders and the critical mindset that sets you apart in being a Leader, instead of an authority figure, is your awareness of yourself and your ability to serve your people. Without that awareness, it is all too easy to become blind to what is really happening in your team and organisation or to feel as though it is you alone who can get things done right, who must make all the decisions and you may fall into the trap of trying to ‘look good’, of looking out for your own interests (which may be disguised in a statement that you are looking out for the ‘organisations’ interests), of trying to manage and control what your people think, do and say in order to preserve your own and your organisation’s reputation, which is really your ego and sense of worth and importance.

You might feel that since you are in charge, you get to make the decisions and people can follow or leave. But what actually happens when leaders and managers in companies start putting power and profits over their people, is that it immediately starts undermining morale, performance, engagement and eroding organisational culture. Think about it. Have you ever worked with someone who:

  • Dominated meetings in an attempt to force his or her ideas on others?
  • Stole ideas to appear better in the eyes of others?
  • Took sole credit for things that required a team effort?
  • Didn’t have your back and worse, shifted personal blame onto you or others?
  • Was ‘always right,’ therefore making his or her opinion the only relevant one?

If you answered “Yes” to any of the above, you know firsthand the havoc a leader who puts their own ego first wreaks on the environment.

Realise that leading from us, where it’s about our collective human family, moves you out of your ego and small self and into miracles, magic and synchronicity. Where you are not afraid of being wrong or looking bad, of not knowing enough or being unworthy because you are focused on your service to others and the vision.

Yes. Here, this space.

Here is where you can do what needs to be done to inspire people to do what they’re capable of doing, learning and becoming. Serve your people by helping people grow and set a course for them to succeed. When you help others get what they want, you will find that you get what you want.

3. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR TEAM

It’s so important that you are working in the right environment with the right people who value working together as a team and have each other’s back. No matter who you are, if you are in an environment that supports you, surrounded by successful, supportive people with growth mindsets, together you will achieve anything you set your minds and hearts to.

Great leaders make people around them successful. They are passionate and committed, authentic, courageous, honest and reliable. That’s why in today’s high-pressure environment, it is critical you have the right people on your team. I respectfully suggest that if you are a leader of people and are looking to grow your influence and impact, you need a confidante, a coach, someone you can trust, to help you gain the perspectives and support to take yourself and your teams and organisations to the next level.

In order to do this you need to authentically and genuinely love what you do and who you are surrounded with. It starts by understanding yourself and knowing what your values are so that you are clear around where, how and with whom you would like to spend your time, energy and resources. Here are 5 questions that will support you with clarity on falling in love with your life and work:

  1. What are your natural strengths and gifts as a leader and as a person?
  2. Who do you love spending time with and what impact are you having on others?
  3. Why do you work so hard?
  4. What are your values? And if they were a guidance system, on a scale of 0-10 how aligned is your life to your values?
  5. Where are you spending the most amount of your time and is it on activities you love?

I know it’s not easy to question yourself, to examine your life, thoughts and beliefs and to take radical responsibility for everything that is happening in your work, life and business. Even harder to change your habits when they have worked to get you to where you are today. When you have reached a certain level of success and responsibility, often the pain of growth and the risk of failure may initially appear to outweigh the benefit of taking new actions. How can you control the outcome, predict the return on investment when you don’t know what it could look like or what could happen? It’s a step into something new! And the truth is, that what got you to where you are isn’t what’s going to take you to the next level. Einstein once said that “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”  To grow to your next level of leadership you will need to embrace a learner’s mindset and fall in love with the process, as confronting and challenging as it may initially feel.

You are here for more.

Leaders, I want to promise you if you commit, do the work, grow and lead from this space, the expansion of all that unfolds in your life is more beautiful, humbling and magical than you ever thought possible.

Top Ten Reasons To Become A Coach Now

Kamy Ahmed shares 10 reasons why anyone should consider coaching as their next career move based on his experience as a respected strategy expert for coaches

As more and more people are becoming sick and tired of the 9-5 grind, more and more people are deciding that they want to step away from the traditional ways of making a living and instead are opting in to become highly ‘credible’ coaches. Ultimately this has given a huge surge to the coaching industry as more and more people are becoming aware that they are able to start a very profitable business using a laptop and an internet connection. the rise of the coaching industry has been phenomenal. It is estimated that by 2020, the coaching industry will be worth well over $2 Billion dollars and being able to work with coaches on a daily basis, here are my top 10 reasons for becoming a coach.

1. Have Total Life Freedom

Have you ever dreamed about working from anywhere in the world? Not having to answer to a boss or anyone for that matter? Being able to go wherever you want, whenever you want, how often you want? Well, now you can. With coaching, you’re able to have that complete life freedom and as long as you have a laptop and a internet connection, you’re able to provide tremendous value to your clients.

2. Doing more fulfilling work

Every single day, I speak with people who are completely unhappy in their jobs. They are miserable because they’re doing the same things over and over again, not going anywhere, staying comfortable because it pays the bills. Becoming a coach helps to get rid of that sense of unfulfillment by helping others get results every day. When you see others succeeding and you were the catalyst in their growth, there comes a true sense of fulfillment because ultimately your clients success is your success. No more feelings of being unfulfilled.

3. Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself

When you push clients further than no one else has pushed them and they get the results they’re looking for, ultimately it motivates you to push yourself. Just imagine everyday you are striving to be the best version of you. Soon enough you will see tremendous results because now as you grow, your clients grow and vice versa. The cycle is definitely one which you want to be stuck in.

4. Financial Freedom

Having true financial freedom allows you to make as much money as you want. No more worrying about how to make ends meet until your next paycheck. With this new found freedom, you now have options, the option to fire your boss instead of him firing you.

5. Become The ‘Go-To’ Person On A Subject

As more and more people are becoming sick and tired of the 9-5 grind, more and more people are deciding that they want to step away from the traditional ways of making a living and insteading are opting in to become highly ‘credible’ coaches. Ultimately this has given a huge surge to the coaching industry as more and more people are becoming aware that they are able to start a very profitable business using a laptop and an internet connection. the rise of the coaching industry has been phenomenal. It is estimated that by 2020, the coaching industry will be worth well over $2 Billion dollars and being able to work with coaches on a daily basis, here are my top 10 reasons for becoming a coach.

6. Have Total Life Freedom

Have you ever dreamed about working from anywhere in the world? Not having to answer to a boss or anyone for that matter? Being able to go wherever you want, whenever you want, how often you want? Well, now you can. With coaching, you’re able to have that complete life freedom and as long as you have a laptop and a internet connection, you’re able to provide tremendous value to your clients.

7. Doing more fulfilling work

Every single day, I speak with people who are completely unhappy in their jobs. They are miserable because they’re doing the same things over and over again, not going anywhere, staying comfortable because it pays the bills. Becoming a coach helps to get rid of that sense of unfulfillment by helping others get results every day. When you see others succeeding and you were the catalyst in their growth, there comes a true sense of fulfillment because ultimately your clients success is your success. No more feelings of being unfulfilled.

8. Become The Best Version Of Yourself

When you push clients further than no one else has pushed them and they get the results they’re looking for, ultimately it motivates you to push yourself. Just imagine everyday you are striving to be the best version of you. Soon enough you will see tremendous results because now as you grow, your clients grow and vice versa. The cycle is definitely one which you want to be stuck in.

9. Financial Freedom

Having true financial freedom allows you to make as much money as you want. No more worrying about how to make ends meet until your next paycheck. With this new found freedom, you now have options, the option to fire your boss instead of him firing you.

10. Become The ‘Go-To’ Person On A Subject

Just imagine what life would be like if you were seen as the ‘expert’ on a subject? What if people were to pay you large sums of money for your advice and expertise? How about if you were seen as the ‘Tony Robbins’ or the ‘Zig Ziglar’ in your industry? All of these things are possible when it comes to coaching. Once you truly stand out and differentiate yourself from everyone else, you become the undisputed king in your field and people will want an expert’s advice, which will be yours.

Kamy Ahmed

By Kamy Ahmed

Kamy is a Strategy Analyst specialised in healthcare, pharma and big data. He works at Dot Coach and Co-Founded How Did He Do It? a strategy non-profit whose mission is that of providing good business strategy to those who can’t afford it.