When life gives you lemons, make lemonade

Nothing in this world is given to you freely. You have to work hard to earn your success. Sometimes, you may feel that the world is against you. When things get tough, then you need to persevere. We all have been through times when things do not go our way. Whether going through tough times is related to work, family, or life; you can make it through this ordeal. Here are some tips that we provide you to help you through the tough times. These tips may not work for everyone, but it had helped us when we went through some hard times.

  1. Keep on being positive and do not let depression creep in
    The statement may sound simple, but you need to keep a positive attitude. There may be times when you feel depressed because you think that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Somehow you need to put a smile on your face maybe not for yourself but the around you. People may get their strength from your resiliency to negativity. Sometimes, the only way out of a bad situation is to think positive.
  2. Be thankful with what you have
    You may watch the news and see senseless violence, starvation, political instability around the globe. Some people are going through some serious issues because of things that they can not control in their environment. No matter how bad things can get, you need to think about what you have in your life. This could be your health, family, friends, or your basic life needs being met. You need to find the one thing that you are thankful for even if things are falling apart. Be grateful and humble with the things that you have in life.
  3. Think about what you can manage
    You are a single part of a larger, complex set of activities that make up your environment. You can only control the components, the tasks, and decisions that are within your purvue. You can not think about the things that you can not control. Instead, narrow your vision and focus on what you can control in your life.
  4. Love yourself
    Take a look in the mirror. The person looking back at you is your reflection. You need to find peace with your observation and love yourself. You need to love yourself first before you can love others.
  5. Ask for help
    There is no shame to ask for help from others. There may be things that are just out of your control. If there are people, who can help you make things easier for you then ask for their assistance. The people who love you and value you as a person would have no problem lending a hand.
  6. Make it a life lesson
    We all learn valuable lessons from past experiences. Especially, when those experiences challenge you. The hard times that you go through now can provide valuable learning experiences for you in the future. Try to find those lessons to help make you wiser and more prepared for any difficult situations that may arise in the future.

4 Delicious Ways to Put Essential Nutrients Back Into Your Day!


Common Problem

Your healthiest mind and body require essential nutrients in your daily intake, which include:

· Carbohydrates

· Protein

· Fat

· Water

· Vitamins

· Minerals

· Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Oftentimes, we don’t get enough of these and your health and wellness take a hit.

Source of Truth

According to Dr. Josh Axe, Doctor and Clinical Nutritionist with the #1 Natural Health Website in the World, says low protein intake can manifest itself in many ways:

· Low Energy

· Fatigue

· Poor Concentration

· Moodiness

· Bone/Joint Pain, Low Immunity

· Fatty Liver (What happened to me)

Source: 9 Signs of a Protein Deficiency + How to Fix www.draxe.com

Consult your doctor, before increasing your protein intake significantly.

One Solution

Meanwhile, NuGoNutrition.com #nugocookies has a sweet protein option that will help supplement your daily protein needs. NuGo has 4 delicious cookies packing 16 grams of pea protein and 10–12 grams of Fiber!

Pea protein contains 9 of the 11 essential amino acids your body needs including BCAA’s (Branch Chain Amino Acids) for muscle strength, growth, and workout recovery, according to Men’s Health Writer Aleisha Fetters.

Source: Pea Protein Power is Trendy Right Now — But Should You Buy It?

By integrating small amounts of lean, grass-fed meat or wild caught seafood, beans, leafy greens, and snacks like NuGo Cookies, you will begin feeling a lot better: Mind and Body.

Results You Can Expect

Imagine how much more you could accomplish with a fully present mind and body. Say, goodbye morning and mid-day sluggishness and coffee jitters, say hello to nutrient-rich alertness and energy that’s good for you and the planet. You can begin getting more organic, nutrient rich Pea Protein with a NuGo Cookie — today.

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Wrapping Up

Here’s a quick reminder to take advantage of these small shifts for big gains, so you can eat, drink, think, and thrive personally and professionally — everyday!

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Hopefully todays tips, will help you eat, drink, think, and thrive to drive success in your personal and professional life, which are endurance races.

I offer you two secret weapons, to win your work/life races:

1. Winning foods, behaviors, and mindset combinations to create the capacity and circumstances for success at work/life.

2. Me, as your 20+ Year Veteran coach of the work/life event, to discuss your eating, drinking, and thinking strategies packed with essential nutrients and knowledge successful athletes consume to thrive!

Join me to learn more about the amazing body, positive mind, and success behavior options that will give you the fuel needed for your work/life success rocket.

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About Coach John St. John, Author, Trainer, Blogger, and Speaker

With 20+ years’ proven experience coaching and developing individual’s excellence as personal, professional, and leadership development interventions, I have helped small business to corporate organizations like Wal-Mart, Steri-Cycle, Kaiser Permanente, Alstom, Best Western International, Federal Aviation Administration, Dish Network, and many more create work/life success — individually to corporately. My approach focuses on audiences learning, practicing, and producing results sooner than expected. And, I’ll help you or your audience shift toward their greatness, too.

5 Unsinkable Mindsets: How to Hardwire Your Life’s Success

I LEARNED FROM TWO UNSINKABLE PEOPLE

When I think about unsinkable, Tony Robbins and Les Brown (Coach and Motivational Speaker respectively) began life with serious disadvantage low income conditioning and no male exemplar of hope and success in their lives.

Today, both are exemplars of unsinkable hope and success. Unsinkable means incapable of sinking. Despite tremendous odds, they are now incapable of sinking. Instead of accepting their lot in life, they rejected their circumstances and created a winning narrative for themselves. I’m on this path. And, I want you to join too.

Be unsinkable in the face of adversity in 5 ways:

#1 BE SPECIFIC AND UNCOMPROMISING ABOUT YOUR DREAM:

Choose your dream career or life despite it feeling unrealistic or insecure, because a choice born of fear, instead of hope, is failure in sheep’s clothing. You make your career or life safe and secure with discerning choices you make.

#2 BE DISCERNING ABOUT GROWING PAIN VS SUFFERING:

Moving in the direction of your dream will cause growing pains, while moving away from it causes suffering.

#3 BE VIGILANT AND AVOID RUMINATING ON FAILURES:

You maintain your life’s momentum when you avoid failure rooting in your mind, because it will grow into tree of disappointment and suffering. Keep looking for your dream and you’ll see it come to pass, as your thoughts and actions point you toward it.

#4 BE PRESENT:

Never let your dream chasing disciplines or routines become so routine they lose value and momentum toward your career or life dreams. You do this by being proactive in what you eat, drink, and think keeping your dream’s achievement at the forefront of all you do.

#5 BE YOURSELF:

It’s the only person success was sent to find and no one else.

About Coach John St. John, Author, Trainer, Blogger, and Speaker

With 20+ years’ proven experience coaching and developing individual’s excellence as personal, professional, and leadership development interventions, I have helped small business to corporate organizations like Wal-Mart, Steri-Cycle, Kaiser Permanente, Alstom, Best Western International, Federal Aviation Administration, Dish Network, and many more create work/life success — individually to corporately. My approach focuses on audiences learning, practicing, and producing results sooner than expected. And, I’ll help you or your audience shift toward their greatness, too.

Continue your work/life success journey at http://bigguylittlekitchen.com/

5 Questions To Ask If You Are Craving Deeper Connections

Then I was the only brown skinned girl in the school that I attended in England. People called me “Paki” when I was Indian and I was physically and emotionally bullied for my color and culture.

Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, the single most important factor that defines our happiness and longevity in life is the quality of relationships we have in our life.

It’s not the quantity of people we know, but the quality of the relationships we have. This is a proven fact.

So if you are craving deep meaningful relationships (which I know for women is vital), but you often feel hurt, left out, or forgotten out of your network of friends, it’s time to take a closer look at what’s going on within.

Anytime things in your physical world are not going the way you want them to, the answers to course correcting them, lie within. Yes, I realize it’s sooooo cliche, but it’s cliche, because it’s the truth.

I moved A LOT growing up. I moved cities and countries and was always the odd one. First I was the girl, who was the only Hindu, in an area of India that was majority Christian. I prayed to a different God to the rest of the kids at school and for that I was mercilessly teased.

Then I was the only brown skinned girl in the school that I attended in England. People called me “Paki” when I was Indian and I was physically and emotionally bullied for my color and culture.

So, the story that I believed was that it was hard to make friends because I never fit in.

1Are you are looking for reasons to not fit in? Are you looking for evidence to confirm your stories and beliefs that you don’t have friends? As humans, we are programmed to see only the things that confirm our beliefs. Anything that debunks it, we weed it out, because we simply don’t see it.

So you might be missing perfectly good opportunities for friendships, because you are so busy believing that it’s hard to make friends.

2. Are you looking for others to invite you and make you feel included? It’s the party season and it’s easy to sit back and wait for others to make you feel included. And if we don’t get invited, it’s easy to pass the blame and the responsibility on to others and despise them for making us feel left out.

But, can you create your own event and invite the people you wish to get to know better? It’s hard to put yourself out there and risk being vulnerable, but the secret to building meaningful relationships is to make yourself available and open.

3. Are you wanting to belong to the crowd that you perceive as cool, rather than looking for “your people”?

I know this sounds so high-school’ish but a lot of us do this. We put people on a pedestal and often want to belong to their inner circle, but don’t see ourselves as good enough to belong.

This starts a vicious cycle where you appreciate them from afar, long to be part of the inner click but can’t bring yourself to integrate fully with them because you don’t feel good enough.

Stop idolizing and longing and start seeing yourself as worthy of having great friends.

Look for the people that make you feel comfortable in your own skin and have the same internal values as you, rather than the external materials things that you aspire to.

4. Are you censoring your true self? Worried that you are too loud, too shy, too much, too quiet, too boring, too………

If you are worried about your true self and you turn up at social gatherings as someone other than yourself, then you are not allowing others to experience the authentic you.

Trying to appear as someone other than yourself, is a guaranteed way of having shallow relationships, because no one has been allowed to get to know the real you.

5. Are you afraid to speak up and ask for what you want in your relationships?

I once had to fire a friend, because she was treating me as an afterthought. She would stand me up for lunch dates, play dates and dinner dates. I kept letting it slide, until one day I had had enough. So I ended the relationship and I wished her all the best in life.

I was heartbroken, but that was a lesson learned to speak up before things got bad in a friendship.

Today, I tell my girlfriends if I have been feeling ignored or unheard.

So where are you not speaking up? Where are you letting yourself be treated unfairly?

Building deep relationships doesn’t have to be hard.

But you do have to be willing to put yourself out there.

To take down some of the walls that you have carefully built over the years.

To take a look at your beliefs and stories that are self fulfilling, but are not helping you live the best version of your life.

During this holiday season, as you go to parties, start to become the observer of your thoughts and actions. Awareness is the key to change.

3 LITTLE KNOWN TIPS: HOW TO UNCLICK YOUR LIFE’S PAUSE BUTTON AND GET MOVING

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FRUSTRATED AND FEELING STUCK IN WORK AND/OR LIFE

I coached a woman named Tonya, who was having a tough time at work. She was feeling frustrated after a promised promotion ended with someone else getting the job. This was the final straw in a haystack of broken promises prompting her to look elsewhere for opportunity.

Unfortunately, she could not find the right job offer with additional income and scheduling like her current employer offered. Tonya felt advancing her career, needing scheduling flexibility, and growing her income were at a standstill. We all have similar work/life circumstances rife with excruciating stress, anxiety, and pain that is not sustainable, too, and remaining stuck is never the answer.

THE UNIVERSAL PAUSE BUTTON OF LIFE (CLICK)

 Tonya felt stuck– couldn’t move up or out of her current job or organization. She felt the universe was conspiring against her. We’ve all been there or maybe you are there right now with Tonya. I’ve been there too, live long enough, and it will come around again. Fortunately, this article shares a solution that shows you how to unclick life’s pause button of pain!

Tonya felt like the universe had hit the pause button of pain on her life. You can imagine how she felt — needing to pivot out of pain, but not knowing what, how, or when it would be possible!

Can you relate?

Every day, she goes into a job that gives her less and less, asks for more, and requires her doing her best work, while enduring feelings of discouragement, hopelessness, anger, distrust, and feeling absolutely stuck in her circumstances.

The U.K. Telegraph Online made these observations about people and their happiness:

Just three in 10 people feel ‘happy with their lives’ Researchers find 69 percent of people feel trapped in the same old routine and over 40 percent are unhappy with their lives

PAUSES CAN BE PAINFUL, BUT MORE OFTEN MISUNDERSTOOD

I shared with Tonya how life’s pauses are generally misunderstood. Most of us know how painful, uncomfortable, and frustrating it is believing, feeling, or knowing there is something better waiting down our life’s path, but the path is not illuminated between your current pain state and future pleasure state.

Tonya and many of us feel antsy and confused, when we cannot move quickly toward our pleasure state and get out of pain — now. However, I’ve learned that running down your life’s path, in the dark (not knowing where you are going or what you are doing) can be disastrous.

In fact, it may be the reason you are currently in the circumstances you are in today — running from fears, not being patient, thinking the grass is greener, etc. If you can’t see where you are going, how do you trust your path (process of moving forward) at all? However, there is a light out of the darkness and an immediate pivot onto an illuminated path, when you understand the true nature of your life’s pauses.

THE PIVOT POINT OUT OF PAIN: UNDERSTANDING LIFE’S PAUSES

So, Tonya and I talked about the pauses of life taking on the meanings we give them. And, how those meanings keep us stuck or propel us forward in life. Feeling like your life is on pause is human, however, making meaning of your pause is a choice.

There are two common meanings people make of their life’s pauses: Belief their pause is either good or bad.

1. BELIEF YOUR PAUSE IS BAD: This feeds hopelessness, blaming, fear, and frustration, but does not change anything. For example:

a. I feel stuck in this job, because I don’t have the right connections. (Blame)

b. I feel like I’ll never be able to live abroad, because I can’t afford it. (Fear)

c. I feel like everything is working against me, because I never get a break. (Hopelessness)

Believing your pause is bad puts your life’s control into the hands of circumstance and treating them as if they are concrete instead of clay. You are given circumstances to mold, create, and amplify good in your life and in other’s lives. You must take back control with belief in a Good Pause.

A great illustration is the “Pregnant Pause”:

Webster’s dictionary defines a pregnant pause as: A pause that builds up suspension in the listener/viewer, for a greater dramatic (especially comic) effect of what follows the pause. 

2. BELIEF YOUR PAUSE IS GOOD: You must figure out what you must labor for and give birth too that feeds hope, accountability, confidence, and fulfilment as your pleasure state. For example:

a. While I’m stuck in this job, I will use this time to start crafting a plan that facilitates the right connections and people for greater opportunities here or elsewhere. (Accountability, Control)

b. While I feel like I’ll never be able to live abroad, I will use this time to find a few people who’ve successfully done it and create an informed action plan that lets me live abroad too. (Confidence)

c. While I feel like everything is working against me, I will use this time to focus on finding what will work for me — I’ll create good breaks — my circumstances are clay and I’m the potter. (Hope)

We must all focus on making GOOD meanings of our pauses not BAD ones!

3 LITTLE KNOWN TIPS TO UNCLICKING YOUR LIFE’S UNIVERSAL PAUSE BUTTON

Understanding your pauses’ meanings is a choice: good or bad. And, you must see pauses as “pregnant pauses of possibility” for reflection and discovery of your way forward. To move forward in the dark, you need a light, so you can see a few paces ahead, obstacles, and confidently make steady progress on your pleasure state’s path.

Now, your path has three obstacles — let’s call them boxes on it. Boxes you must find, unpack, and use to unclick life’s pause button. Each box contains 1 of 3 flashlight parts: Bulb, Flashlight Tube, and Batteries, so you can illuminate your life’s path:

1. (BULB) Vivid vision: This is a compelling, uncompromising, crystal clear vision of your pleasure state. It’s a “MUST” for you. It is worth fighting for tooth and nail! This means pulling late nights, getting up earlier before work, breaking mental/physical bad habits, etc. No matter what happens, in work/life, you are a heat seeking missile aimed at your pleasure state. It is what you can’t stop thinking about, dreaming about, scheming about day and night, to quote Les Brown.

Adopt a mentality that you won’t rest until you act and make your pleasant state happen. This doesn’t mean burning yourself out but showing resolve in the face of anything attempting to derail your efforts.

How I applied #1: the day my wife and I stopped talking about going on vacation and started pulling up resort rates online, checking our leave balances at work, and calculating the cost of going to St. Maarten instead of just dreaming about it. As in work or life, you must know specifically where you are going, so you can count the cost and start preparing for your trip (mentally and physically).

2. (FLASHLIGHT TUBE) Patient Process: This is the revelation and transformation resulting from your path being illuminated. It is satisfying and painful, because it’s growth. You will learn and lose somethings on your path, which is part of the process of making room in your mental backpack for success supplies you’ll need for remaining focused (no matter what) on achieving your pleasure state.

This means you staying positive through your day’s current state of pain, while working on your pleasure state every free moment you can beg, borrow, or steal. You must reflect on the behaviors and relationships (to things and people) you must change so you can focus and act on your movement toward your pleasure state.

Such as ending low value, toxic relationships with people in your life. Or, you may become a volunteer sharing what you love and aligned with your pleasure state. These changes will help create more capacity and focus required for reaching your pleasure state.

How I applied #2: Our St. Maarten trip was several weeks in the making and waiting. Yes, waiting for the right rates, allocating funds, finding flights, arranging childcare, and getting projects done sooner, before even considering the beach vacation. It became our singular mission — we need a break (On St. Marteen) and we did what it took to reach St. Maarteen.

Now, cheaper vacations popped up like weeds, but those ads merely served to divert our attention away from making St. Marteen a reality. When your pleasure state is on the line, do not compromise!

3. (BATTERIES) Champion Connections: These people are further along in life. They give your bulb power to illuminate your path, so you can safely travel along it. This is where experts like Keith Ferrazzi comes in. There are millions of people out there that have been where you are going.

However, they don’t work for free, so you must learn how to engage, enrich, and be patient with them as they come into mutually beneficial relationships with you. Keith is a world renown expert in the champion connection space with books and at least one online course on Udemy.

This lesson about connecting with champions isn’t new, but it resonates differently when I consider how long I’ve been on a professional island cut-off from collaboration or support. And, seeing the impact of not having or being a champion for someone else — you stagnate, have fewer options, and have more difficulty getting off pause and staying that way.

How I applied #3: So, our best efforts hit a snag. We lacked expert knowledge of St. Maarten, so selecting the right condo was a chore. We did not know how water proximity dramatically reduced rental pricing. Like, a few hundred feet equating to a few hundred dollars less per day or week! An expert, when and where you need it, is rocket fuel for you unclicking your life’s pause button.

I can still remember breaking through the clouds over the sandy Isle of St. Marteen, as the jet descended through beautiful white clouds, over light blue waters, to touch down on a sandy expanse dotted by palm trees. It was only a few hours later, before we were sipping from fresh cut coconuts on a St. Maarten beach. The work/life struggle is real, and so are the rewards — don’t give up!

YOUR PATH’S LIGHT — ASSEMBLY IS REQUIRED

Life’s pauses make you stop, so you don’t trip over the three boxes on your unlit path to your pleasure state. The pleasure state that’s too far away to see with your eyes or run too without tripping over boxes in the dark. If you remain on your path and assemble your flashlight, you will see your path illuminate just beyond your pain state, faster, and enter your pleasure state more quickly.

DON’T TRY TO ILLUMINATE YOUR ENTIRE PATH — YOU’LL BLOW YOUR MENTAL LIGHTBULB

You might be asking, “Why can’t you see the whole path all at once?”

Jack Nicholson answers this question best:

See, your pause and path provide tumult and treasures that would be TOO alarming IF YOU SAW THEM ALL AT ONCE and out of context. You need processing time for making meaning out of what confronts you on your path. If you do not take time and build context around your experiences (Good Meaning), you will end up overwhelmed eating an entire elephant of possibilities instead of one bite at a time.

For example: “Getting a college degree can be overwhelming until you realize nothing happens until you enroll. And, progress toward completing a degree is one class at a time.” Your path is like getting a college degree. You will learn individual lessons that will help you reach your goal, which is how your path works — you get the context of where you are and are going, so you can keep going without overwhelm.

Otherwise, “Pop!” your bulb is blown trying to take in more than you are equipped to handle at any point on your path. This would make any pleasure state path seem more like a nightmare and your destination an impossibility, because you made the wrong meaning rushing toward your pleasure state!

Patience and process allow your flashlight’s illumination of bite sized portions of your life’s path. It is just enough illumination required to see, process, learn, and do what matters most in the moment — no more.

HERE’S THE ADVICE I GAVE TONYA (THAT WILL WORK FOR YOU TOO)

1. (Bulb = Vivid Vision) Tonya needed to unpack and create her ideal pleasure state that embodies the salary, flexibility, location, and opportunities for growth she dreams about day and night.

She will spend quality time making sure her pleasure state vividly resonates with her core values and aligns with her overall direction for her best life. These actions will help her create a crystal-clear vision for herself that feels right, authentic, compelling, necessary, a bit scary, and ultimately exciting without being overwhelming.

2. (Body Tube = Patient Process) Tonya must unpack her patience and stick to the “revelation — transformation” process, which means not rushing through needed research into jobs fitting her description. Not letting negative thoughts about her pleasure state dim her vivid vision, nor allowing bumps/setbacks on her path dissuade, discourage, and/or distract her from her chosen path.

This means maintaining her focus on bite-sized, actions and steps versus focusing her precious attention on all the possible steps she thinks must be taken toward reaching her pleasure state.

Remember, unfocused thinking will induce worry and often results in overwhelm getting in the way of a clear course of action. If you have trouble focusing your thoughts, you may find it useful practicing stillness such as a nature walk or meditation, before embarking on any serious self-reflective activities.

3. (Battery = Champion Connections) Finally, Tonya and I discussed the importance of taking her 12- month pause and getting connected with people she must meet, learn about openings, and building educational/social bridges to her pleasure state (the third box unpacked).

She must find champions with money, wisdom, introductions, perspective, to name a few things, whose flashlights have illuminated theirs and other’s paths to success. A great resource is Keith Ferrazzi’s book and relationship action plan (RAP) concept that spells out what Tonya must do consistently for the types of business and social relationships she needs for moving into her next opportunity.

Now, Tonya has unpacked all three boxes, assembled her flashlight, and is ready for champion connections who will help her follow her pleasure state’s path. And, so can you.

WRAPPING UP

Remember, your pause is what you make it, so make it a good one, by following the flashlight assembly instructions:

1. Create a vivid vision.

2. Follow your process with patience.

3. Find champion connections who have been where you are going

Follow these three steps, and I guarantee you’ll be on your well-lit path moving toward the pleasure state that gives you a better work and/or life results. These tips worked for me and those I’ve coached, so I know they will work for you, too.

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