Every year, thousands of people lurch to the finishing line of the year armed with their New Year’s Resolutions, only to get to February and give up.
How is your’s going? Are you on track? Or have you already abandoned them because it is too hard, takes too long or some other reason?
New Year’s Resolutions are like taking putting a Band-Aid on broken leg. The problem with setting goals around a new year is many people expect this one moment to change their life, when they have not done any prep work to really implement changes into their life.
That time of the year is a metaphorical reset button for so many. A chance to make changes, do something different, or to take a different path. What research is showing is 8 to 12 percent of people who set resolutions follow them through.
This means most people are left feeling like they have failed, and this has significant impact on self-belief.
The problem lies in a society that is so geared to instant gratification. We’ve forgotten how to see that time and energy is needed to make any change in life.
We are born into a purchasing style economy. If there is a problem in our life – we can buy a product and that is our solution. That how many see New Year’s Resolutions – as a quick fix. It creates the perception the solutions are outside of us.
Think of making changes in life like steering a big cruise ship. There is no way you can get that ship to turn on a dime by yanking the wheel. It takes time to turn the ship. It takes knowing where you are headed and an understanding there may be obstacles in the way.
For the ship to keep turning, you have to keep your hand on the wheel and not give up when it does not turn straight away.
I know. The path I was on in 2016 wasn’t the one I wanted to be on. As a successful commercial management consultant, I knew I wanted to do more with my life. I wasn’t sure what that was, just that I wanted to make the changes necessary to begin my new journey. I set about changing his life. To get my ship to turn, I knew I needed six months to get my plan into action.
It was a major piece of work. But what I knew was I am the master of my universe and for the changes to happen I must be prepared to put in the effort and stay resolute, even when things did not always go right. I knew what I wanted. When things went wrong, it was not the Universe telling me this was the wrong thing to do, it was the Universe asking me how badly I wanted the changes.
This is why New Year’s Resolutions do not work, for most people. They do not accept they are the master of their destiny. They are too quick to blame others for things that go wrong. They do not take the time to set a plan in motion.
If you want to lose weight, it going to take time. If you want to heal a broken relationship, it takes time. To turn your ship, you must have resolute faith that all the things you are doing will keep you heading in the new direction. Hitting the reset button on your life on January 1 with planning or preparation – changing your mindset and attitude – will not happen if you go into it with your current thinking. That is how you go to where you are now.
Your ‘New Year’s” can be any date you wish. It doesn’t have to be January 1.
When we know we can have a New Year’s Resolution do over every year, there is no need to fully commit. There is a 1 Jan every year. That is why it doesn’t work. You can just do it again next year.
To successfully make an Any Time Of Year’s Resolution:
- commit to it ahead of time
- take control of your intentions
- have a better understanding of the current problems or issues, and what needs to change
- Understand the journey and what may crop up to get in your way, testing your resolve
- be accountable for your choices – not to a coach or someone else; to yourself
Remember, there is no such thing as failure. Just trial and error. If things do not work out, you still get a result, you still got data. It just means it is time to try something different.